I don't know how I'll handle it if someone calls me "selfish" for not having children. It's not something that should make me angry. It's just another stupid "bingo". But here is a beautifully put argument I found:
"Choosing to have kids IS the most SELFISH thing someone can do.
Let us assume for the moment that someone who chooses to have kids is making a decision which most benefits that person, or else that person would not make that decision. And let us assume for the moment that someone who chooses not to have kids is also making a decision which most benefits that person.
The difference between these two people is that the have-children person expects others, including those who choose not to have children, to subsidize (i.e. using resources, getting tax breaks, favors and benefits in the workplace, tolerating other's children in places they have no business being in) the choice of the have-children person, while the person who chooses NOT to have children neither expects nor receives any benefits from the have-children people because of the choice he or she made.
That is the essence of the "Who is selfish?" debate. Each is making a decision which best suits himself or herself, but one expects the other to bear some of the costs of that decision, while the other does not. This is why those who have children are selfish while those who do not have children are not selfish."
Very well said. Now I need to get my "unselfish" self home because this stupid damn bug won't go away. I need to rest and be ready to go to my parents tomorrow. I'm not going to be in town on mother's day and I need to spend some quality time with mom. Who isn't one of the selfish ones, by the way. Heh.
3 comments:
Why waste your time? If someone called me selfish because I don't want kids, I would say, "Yeah. So?"
And then I would not talk to that person again.
I love you, chica, but why worry about the things assholes might one day say to you? Who cares what they think? I mean, really. Are they going to change your mind?
Family or no, I would find a way to stay as far away from that crap as possible. When the subject comes up, I would get distracted by the next shiny thing that reflected off the ceiling. It's no one's business but yours and your husband's, and if push comes to shove, don't be afraid to say that right to someone's face. Idiots like that don't deserve the courtesy of manners. They really don't.
I despise Dr. Phil, but he's right in that we do teach people how to treat us.
I like this. And I totally agree. **HUGS!!**
Yeah, everyone who has kids expects everyone else to make at least some allowances for THEIR children. People with kids have special rights that the rest of us are expected to deal with. Why do we have to put up with YOUR kids? I have been thinking about this alot lately!! :-)
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