Ah yes...The Stork. Not so special anymore, huh.
And thank you, M. I think you put it rather nicely. Your reasoning is the same as mine. I will take them from your wonderful comment and put them here. Thank you so much for your support. And you too, A.
*Ahem*
Reasons I don't want kids, volume I:
1. I don't want the responsbility of caring for another human being for the next eighteen years (and more, since kids are leaving the nest later and later and do tend to come back).
2. I don't want the expense they bring. I don't want the stress. I don't want the germs. I don't want to pass on my particular cocktail of genetic crap.
3. I don't want to bring another human into an overpopulated world and strain our resources further.
4. I don't want to doom a child to living in a world that scares the crap of ME, an adult.
5. I don't want to deal with the noise, the activity level, the clinginess, or the mess of a child.
Hell, I have birds. I already deal with a noise level, clinginess (Pickles has his moments) and mess. I take it from them because I enjoy them...just like other women enjoy children. I mean, I enjoy children, too. I feel like I keep having to say that over and over. I think some toddlers are adorable. It's just that I'm much more googoo over baby animals. I LOVE animals and their innocense. I detest humans and their arrogance. This is how I am. This is my belief system and there is nothing wrong with it. I AM THE CRAZY BIRD/ANIMAL LADY. That is FINE with me.
It might mean that I end up alone, but I am prepared to fight for what I want. It's gonna be very tough. Just when I think Ron is starting to understand, he says he wants to be a father. This actually came up again at the local H@@ters over the weekend. I'm trying to avoid the subject and not bombard him. I don't want to get into arguments constantly, so I've left it alone for a while. But it came up, I listened and didn't push...he said he wanted to be a father. I was gonna ask why but he closed the subject because he didn't want to argue in a restaurant...again. This is why I need a compitent therapist to guide me through this. I don't know how to approach it. We need to hash this out once and for all so we can move on...either together or apart.
I can honestly say that I've never felt more confident about a decision in my entire life. Honestly. People, I KNOW I'd be a great mom. I KNOW I'm smart and could offer a child a lot. Who says it has to be MY child? How selfish is that?! Sorry to disappoint, but this is MY life. SO THERE. *sticks out tongue like 3 year old*
Sorry, end of this discussion for now. FOR NOW.
2 comments:
First of all, you will not end up alone because you don't want kids. Hell, you may end up with a Crazy Bird Man who has more birds than you do! Heh.
But hey, even if Mike decides he wants kids one day and we end up parting ways, I can speak from experience and say that there are PLENTY of men out there who don't want kids, or any more kids. Once you get into your 30s, it becomes easier to find them. A lot of them are a little bit older, but they're out there, and they would LOVE to have what they consider an "unencumbered" woman.
Not that I'm encouraging you and your hub to split up. I hope you can work this out, chica. Just saying: Don't feel like being childfree dooms you to growing old alone. It most certainly does not.
What Terri said. And that brings me to another thing that irks me about this whole mess; how many people do you hear saying that a big reason they want to have kids is so they won't be alone in their old age?
Saywhatnow? The job of a parent is to raise a child so he or she can have a separate, independent life. They're not some form of social insurance, for Pete's sake.
*steps down from soapbox, although she is THRILLED to be quoted* ;-)
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