One of the reasons Ron and I are continuing to do better is the fact that he's slowed way down on his drinking. I am so proud of him. He's also quit smoking for the most part. He only smokes when he's drinking too much and I'm so happy to see him cutting way back on both. It's helped me cut back on my drinking as well. We've also been attending counseling together, which is HUGE. It took me years to get him to agree to come to my therapist with me and air some of his issues. He finally understands why I go to a therapist and that it doesn't make you 'weak' to admit you have problems. This therapist is great because he can relate to both of us and has great ideas and solutions. He has been there, as a former alcoholic/addict he knows his shit. He's also been divorced and has been working as a couples counselor for years. I've had tons of experience with different therapists throughout my life, from the age of 12, and I can easily say that this is the best therapist I've ever had.
I'm so glad that he's helping us. One of our other problems was the division of labor. I was doing everything around the house and it made me so anxious. I'm learning to compromise and not worry if things get a little messy. Ron is learning to help me out by doing dishes, vacuuming and putting his clothes away/picking up after himself. It's great, and all I had to do was calm down and ask him nicely instead of doing everything myself and holding in the resentment. I know it'll never be perfect, but no relationship is. All I have to do is relax and talk to him.
I should also mention that in addition to getting more hours, I was put on the company payroll in January and no longer work through the temp agency. Yay! So there is hope... I don't want to have to find another job because I love it here. I also love the fact that it is SO CLOSE TO HOME. It takes me all of six minutes to get here in the morning and I can go home for lunch!
I'm so thrilled that I don't have to go to that stupid damn catalog conference in Chicago, too. Every May, we'd have to leave on a Sunday, usually Mother's Day, to spend three days in Chicago peddling our overexpensive bullshit products to a bunch of snooty assholes. Not to mention we always had to leave at some ungodly hour on Sunday morning. Last year I had to spend the night at my boss' house so I could be up at 3 a.m. so we could make the 6 a.m. flight. Pure hell. I can say I'll miss the bar, though. There were some nice regulars, including the bartenders. I headed there every day after our meetings to avoid spending too much time with my arrogant boss and her equally arrogant friend from New York. I was so tired of going to dinners with them and hearing my boss brag about her spoiled, bitchy daughter who is going to Stanford. Then the friend would bring up his business and his 5,000 square foot house. I had NOTHING in common with those people and I never have to see them again. Hooraayyyy!!!!
So yay me for making some much needed changes in my life. I'm off to have a nice day at work now.
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